Figuring Out What You Don’t Want in a Man

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After a brutal recovery from a relationship, we more often than not make a list (whether mentally or physically) of the desired features in a man we aim to find as a potential next suitor for life. Maybe we want someone who is pursuing their passion. Someone who is successful at being happy a majority of the time. Someone who treats a woman right. Someone who urges our creative side. Maybe we want someone tall, dark, and handsome. Maybe we want someone who loves waking up at the crack of dawn to go hiking and watch the Sun rise, lighting up the entire city from atop the mountain. Or maybe we want someone who loves coffee and wine just as much as we do. Maybe we want someone who is smarter than us, teaching us every single day. Maybe we want someone who will be a leader of the house hold — the decision maker. We certainly want someone as funny as us, because if he does not laugh at our jokes, who will?

And then we meet someone, presumably someone who falls into all the right categories of what we are searching for. But when it fails, we are baffled.

Why?

Because we did not make a list of what we do not want in a man.

Sure, he is funny and loves coffee and wine, and he treats a woman right, and he even is happy. He’s smarter than you and a hard worker. He seems to have the entire package. Yet it…