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Why I Give Thanks Instead of Blame
If you’re gonna give them credit for everything that’s fucked up, then you have to give them credit for everything that’s great.
— Tony Robbins
Does anything else think it is ridiculously easy to place blame on others? It is human nature to self-preserve, so we naturally come up with millions of reasons why we are the way we are and do the things we do based on circumstances that have happened TO us — it happens on a deeper level than even we understand. Instead, we should be looking at how beautiful the world has treated us thus far, for the circumstances in life happened FOR us, and is working in our favor: we just have to open our blind eyes and see what we have rather than what we do not.
I used to blame my ex-husband for everything bad in my life. I figured I developed a full-blown eating disorder because my body was never good enough for him. I restricted my diet until people started privately talking to me about how fucking worried they were that I might die if I did not eat more, and soon. I blamed him for my alcoholism so I could drink away not only the bad memories I had of him but also the good. Because the good hurt even worse than the bad— it made me re-think leaving him and how we could have lasted due to these so-called “good times.” I assumed my bitterness toward love and relationships stemmed from his abuse toward…
